The hardest moments for me are also some of the sweetest. It's no lie that my kiddos are suffering. They put on a good mask most of the time and I'm so proud of them for that. I try and reinforce that it is OKAY for them to have FUN, to ENJOY LIFE. That's what I want the most for them. I tell them it's also okay to be sad.
In the quiet moments, usually the quiet moments of the night, sometimes they will crawl into my bed in tears. I just put them to bed with laughs and giggles so I'm always somewhat surprised. They are so lonely for their family......to be whole. All I can offer is that we will all get through this. In time it will get better. We will establish a "new" family and we will THRIVE because we are STRONG! Of course we will have our moments of tears but in the end LOVE will win.
I'm the product of a divorce. I've spoken to many many other people who are products of a divorce. The one thing that almost all of them have said is that they wished their parents would get back together. It was their wish on a star, their Christmas wish. I wish I could take away their pain. But since I can't I hope that I can teach them to be resilient. To give them tools to learn how to cope with the big things in their lives. I've heard it said we as parents are sure to mess up our kids lives, but if we can give them those tools to cope then we have done our job.
So the bitter moments where I wish my kids could just be kids and not have to worry about any of this crap. Well they do have some sweetness in there too. The clinginess equals snuggles & hugs, the sadness equals some pretty good talks.
I am SO BLESSED. Motherhood is amazing!
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